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The chaste older person. The dirty old geezer. The horny old broad. Stereotypes all. The common notion is that when you are old you don't -- and maybe shouldn't -- have sex. Our studies have shown that older people are sexier in attitude and performance than they have been credited for.The Three Degrees - Dirty Ol' Man (1974)
Louis University. So who's responsible for the myth that sex becomes unimportant as one ages? The danger is that people come to accept these stereotypes as true. They then risk losing one of the most important parts of their lives -- and their health. Wake up your body again if it has been shut down.
Do it whether you feel like it or not. Bortz, a specialist in internal medicine at the Palo Alto Medical Clinic in California and a clinical associate professor of medicine at Stanford University School of Medicine, goes even further:. If we agree sex is good for you, you shouldn't stop -- regardless of apathy.
Sex for seniors is not the same thing as sex for young people. The concern is with recreation rather than the possibility of procreation -- and for same-sex couples, the stress is less on performance and more on satisfaction. This allows more room for expanding one's sensuality -- an important aspect of sex when the natural aging process may mean changes in sexual function. Alternatives to intercourse are not just for people who don't want to get pregnant or get a disease.
The most healthy thing is for people to put aside the idea that if intercourse isn't working for you, you can't be sexual. Intercourse should never be the goal. If some sexual activity is uncomfortable or doesn't work, try something different. We have learned so much from people in the disability community. I know a quadriplegic man who has no feeling below the neck, but he can have orgasms from having his neck nuzzled. You adapt. For example, if your partner is very overweightthere are a lot of things you can't do. So what? There are a lot of things you can do.
Find a way to enjoy yourself with whatever limitations you may have. What can you do if your sexual pilot light has gone out? For many people, the answer may be communication -- something that doesn't come in a pill bottle. People have to know they are not the only one who is considering being sexual. They need to know that they can do it without any risk to their health, and more importantly, with no risk to their self-esteem. One of the problems with people who are now older is there is even less talk about sex than there was before.
Screw up your courage and talk to them. Communication can also help overcome another problem -- feeling that nobody will find your older body sexy. If my self-image is good. I can at least think about being attractive. I don't have any difficulty telling a sex partner that I have problems with some things about my body and don't feel comfortable taking all my clothes off.
Once self-esteem is better, a person can begin to explore their newfound sexuality. Blank and Bortz each recommend masturbation -- for both men and women -- as a good starting point. So the next time you fix one, give him my card. Bortz says women over 60 should reject the idea that their sex lives must end if their husbands pass away.
There is this reigning paradigm that once your man has died it is all over for you.
It is a nostalgic, romantic image. But physical touching and romance should be with us until the last twinkle. One of the disincentives for women is painful intercourse due to thinning of vaginal tissues as estrogen levels decline. Hormone replacement therapy used to be used for this purpose. But with more research linking combination estrogen and progestin therapy to heart disease and breast cancerhormones are now only recommended for the relief of hot flashes.
Both Morley and Blank recommend the use of lubricants for older women. If condoms or sex toys are used, these lubricants should be water-based and not oil-based. Finally, Bortz suggests that woman can actively increase their sex drive -- what psychologists call libido. Lots of women have flagging desire, and testosterone works for both women and men in this regard. But most men's aging problems are not testosterone.
But this might be the problem, so the first step is to measure the testosterone levels in the blood. The FDA estimates that there are 4 million to 5 million men in the U. But many of these men are not getting testosterone treatment. Morley says new studies put the of hypogonadal men in the U.
Even so, both Morley and Bortz warn people to get reliable tests of their testosterone level before attempting testosterone therapy. There is a large of studies that show libido will improve in older men when you improve testosterone levels. The reason to give testosterone to older men is not limited to sexual activity. Sex is nice, but living is even more fun.
As we get older, memory goes down -- and we males tend to lose our ability to remember at a greater rate than females. We have shown that the single best predictor of poor memory in middle-aged men is low testosterone. And when men are given it back, their memory improves. Morley has developed a questionnaire that can screen men for possible testosterone deficiency. It includes 10 questions:. A "yes" answer to either of the first two questions, or a "yes" answer to any three questions indicates that a man should have their testosterone level checked.
Morley recommends a direct test known as "bioavailable testosterone," which he finds more reliable than tests for total testosterone or calculations of bioavailable testosterone from other tests. This has several components, and the main one is hydraulics. That is where Viagra enters wonderfully, and I cannot vaunt its benefit to mankind highly enough. I think it is one of the most important drugs to come along, and it is quite safe. Morley notes that Viagra cannot work properly if low testosterone levels are not corrected.
Viagra, however, does have side effects such as flushing and headaches. And Morley warns of another possible side effect: color blindness. Morley notes that sexual function in men also can be caused by psychological problems such as depression and by a wide variety of diseases.
Not the least of these is heart diseaseand difficulty in attaining an erection could be an early symptom. One of these problems with blood flow has a common cause: cigarette smoking.Neil Young: Dirty Old Man - photo montage
If you give me [a drug injection] to stimulate an erection and then give them just two cigarettes, the erection will go down. I never had any success in getting my patients to quit smoking until I told them about this. The phrase 'use it or lose it' comes easily to mind," Bortz says.
That is where Viagra could be used as an operational crutch. The answer to not enough erections is erections.
This le to the idea that there may be a recommended daily allotment for erections. It may seem obvious, but Bortz stresses the importance of good relationships to healthy sexuality. He sums up his advice for a healthy sex life in three points:. Sometimes seniors who rediscover their sexuality forget an important rule: Good sex is safe sex.
Safe sex means being responsible for your own health,and the health of your partner. There are a lot of bad bugs out there. And unlike the old days, not all of them can be cured with a simple shot of penicillin. In fact, some can't be cured at all. Do you feel used up? Well, you could give up. Or you could fix what's wrong and wind back up. My main contribution is that most of what we think is aging is disuse. And that applies strongly to sexuality.
Sexual Conditions Feature Stories. From the WebMD Archives. Finding What Works for You Sex for seniors is not the same thing as sex for young people. If my self-image is good, I can at least think about being attractive. Steps to Better Sex for the Older Woman Not surprisingly, maintaining sexual function is different for men and women.
It includes 10 questions: Do you have a decrease in sex drive? Are your erections less strong? Do you have a lack of energy? Do you have decreased strength or endurance? Have you lost height? Have you noticed a decreased enjoyment of life? Are you sad or grumpy? Have you noticed a recent deterioration in your ability to play sports?Dirty old man wants to play
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