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There's no denying that many women are afraid of getting older — or at least looking it. In our State of Skin study, we asked over 1, women of all races and ethnicities about their feelings on aging and beauty. About half shared that anti-aging products are a necessity for them, with most beginning to use them around age And who can blame them when most beauty advertisements feature young faces, while women over 50 are generally ignored?
Yet, among Black women — whom our research found to be the least likely to use anti-aging products — looking and getting older is embraced, not feared. And that notion is deeply rooted within our ancestry. Afiya Mbilishakaan assistant professor of psychology at the University of the District of Columbia, who specializes in traditional African cultural rituals. That meant appearing older as a woman could speak to your influence — the older you looked, the more you were respected. But more so about celebrating life as the years go on.
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We know that just living to an older age is an act of resistance. Aging shows what you've been through, what you've survived, and what you've accomplished. At years-old and over, they're each more comfortable in their beautiful brown skin than ever before. And there's nothing they're looking forward to more than the future, which includes all the glorious physical changes that will come with living more life. Below, they share what aging looks and feels like — and means — to each of them.
No one [laughs]. I didn't start caring about it probably until my 40s.Chatty GetReadyWithMe ~ DID I HAVE A FACELIFT? ~ OVER 70~ SHOUTOUT
And that was only because I started to see a few wrinkles, and I was like, "Wait, what? She turned to me and said, "First of all, if you're in your 40s and this is the first time you're worrying about using an eye cream, just shut up. I think around 40 I started to worry, but not because of how I looked.
For me, I kept on thinking I needed to be at a certain place in life, I needed to be doing a certain thing — that's what freaked me out. But I eventually squashed that. In terms of beauty, once I saw the wrinkles, I was fine with what was going on, it was just a change.
I just had to figure out what products worked for me. I do use a serum that says anti-aging. But I'm not using it because I think I need to stay young. I just know I like what's in it and I like the. I think was intimidated by skincare products at first, because I like to just get up and go. There were just so many steps, and it confused me. But now I've found a magical combination for my routine and I kind of like it. I also have an ointment that I put on any discoloration, and I have that anti-aging serum. And honestly, this is bad, but I just started using SPF every day.
What do you think makes Black women uniquely beautiful, especially as we age? The melanin in our skin. I mean, come on, it's the truth. It makes us radiant and it makes us beautiful. I love my eyelashes. And maybe this is because I am a personal trainer, but just any part of my body. I feel like my body serves me well. I like trying to keep it in tact. Smiling is one. And trying to stick to this beauty routine and drink water. Also, just giving thanks and praise every chance I get, because I'm grateful for my life. My mother most definitely taught me that you should always leave the house with earrings and lipstick — she always cared about the way she looked.
But when it came to skincare, I think I learned that on my own and through friends, seeing what worked for them. I've tried all kinds of things. I used Neutrogena in my teens when I had acne all over the sides of my cheeks. But nothing I used ever made it totally go away. Then as a young adult, I started paying more attention to my skin, I would use Proactiv and get facials here and there.
Oh yeah. The first time I was scared of getting older was when I was about to turn 30, which in hindsight of course is ridiculous — 30 is incredibly young. Then I think when I turned 40, I started to notice a difference in my body, in my skin. Everything just looked more dull. Before 40, I could just chug some water and the next day, everything would be bright.
Even if I got a pimple or something, they used to heal.
After 40, they would leave marks all over my skin. I also had to pay more attention to working out. In my late 40s, really. I am a late bloomer and I had my children later in life. I had my first child in my early 40s, and my wife carried the second one. I really think children put things into perspective. It made me look at things like: "I'm alive.
I'm here to take care of my. I think prior to that I had been so concerned with what other people think. Then towards my late 40s, I started to honor myself. I started to appreciate what I brought to the table, and stopped trying to change it. I think at the end of the day, it has to do with your genes, but yes. I mean, whatever you want to do to make yourself feel good about the way you look I think is fine. So if someone wants to use anti-aging products, then go right ahead. I certainly use creams and whatever. I grew up in the '70s, and my dad was in the military so we moved around a lot.
I lived all over: Germany, Pennsylvania, Texas. Everywhere I went, all the things that I saw in terms of beauty were white women.
Blonde was the ideal beauty. As a Black woman, I'd try to like something a little different than that. But I'd still get caught up in the whole thing of "good hair," straighter nose, all that. And in my experiences, that's what men were attracted to. But when I came to New York as an adult, I started to see different people, I started to appreciate other types of beauty. Even with my freckles, I didn't always think that was a beautiful thing. But I eventually just started to love what I have. I can't put my finger on why, I think it's just a part of getting older, but now I think the features that I have are great.
What do you think makes black women uniquely beautiful, especially as we age? A Black woman's way of being is so rich and original. As we age, we just become so much more refined. We better ourselves, despite the fact that we're living in a world where we aren't the most appreciated. I mean, we experience racism and sexism and a lot of us are carrying our families on our shoulders.
But we also have been leading the charge, we're influential. We struggle, but it's incredible that we are also so prolific at the same time. I always try to see the silver lining, which is not to say that you can't be sad or mad. But life is a journey. My grandmother, she was from Trinidad. There weren't a lot of products back in those days, but she was actually the one who stressed about removing your makeup at the end of the day.
She used to have Ponds Cold Creamand she would make sure I used it. She also gave me NoxzemaI think when I turned 15, to clean my skin. And she told me to drink lots of water, which I still do. I feel like she glowed because she drank gallons and gallons of water. I think just society makes it seem like after a certain age, you are no longer attractive. I was divorced when I was 30, I was a single motherand you start to wonder if you are still attractive. But personally, for me, that was temporary.
I love how I look, I feel like I've kind of grown into it. So I really don't care about too many other people and their opinions. I'm the one that has to look back in the mirror. Absolutely, if you're talking about using the appropriate retinol or cream. For me, a couple of years ago, I started working out a lot, getting into my own health more and started thinking about what I was putting into and doing to my body.
And part of that was discovering the Clairsonic. It's a little expensive, but it really changed the texture of my skin. Then I started looking at products. For me, I think those things just enhance how you age. I'm sure at 16, when I was going through breakouts, people told me to buy products that addressed those issues topically. But I don't think anyone ever told me to address what was going on in my body.
Other than that, I get facials now, I go in saunas, I get massages, all those things kind of help me feel good. That's not something I really knew about when I was Before, I always felt like I needed to be made up and covered up, and now I put on a little moisturizer, maybe a little concealer — it depends on how I feel — and then I go out. It doesn't bother me to go and do errands on the weekends without much on my face. I just feel like I've become more comfortable in my skin as I've gotten older. Besides the melanin that we have naturally?
I think we have such internal beauty that just shines. For us, I think it's part of our culture, part of our sass, part of who we are. I have never felt like I've wanted to be anything but a Black woman. Exercise — that's how I start my day.
I am up at in the morning every day. It's my anchor, it centers my day, it makes me relaxed and chill. I love to sweat and I feel like that enhances your beauty.
My neighbor Juanna, and also my mother and my aunt. Juanna taught me how to pluck my eyebrows.Older for women of color
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